What do you need to let go of?
What do you need to let go of?
This year I’ve decided that getting past my need for certainty is on the top of my personal goals list. Let me explain a little what that means to me…
Certainty isn’t all about knowing the future for me, it’s all about being prepared for it. I can look at situations or find myself in the midst of a problem and fairly quickly sort out the different choices available to me and the impact of all of those. Being able to do a personal case statement like so:
CASE
WHEN <situation happens>
THEN <response>
ELSE <response>
END
Is frankly how I respond to just about anything in my life AND if I’m able to do this (perhaps nested a few levels), then I have zero stress. This logic flow is how I assess everything and it’s a constant background dialog in my mind. I often don’t even realize I’m doing it until I put a to-do list together or start planning my day.
I occasionally encounter situations where the THEN or the ELSE escapes me and that can cause real panic, halting everything else until I have time to create a plan. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think there is anything bad about stepping back and taking the time to figure things out. What I take issue with is the amount of stress I put myself through in between, when ideally I should be able to set the thing aside and go about my day until I decide what I’m going to do, instead I typically ruminate myself into a tizzy.
Since I made this decision I’ve been able to not only set aside problems to come back to later but I’ve also been to set them aside entirely, to be able to let things sit unsolved or recognize that I’m not able to fix them, and then let what happens next unfold without any plans. I’m beginning to look forward to the day that something unexpected happens and I can sit back and enjoy it.
Esprit De Escalier 