If I Could Go Back in Time
The problem with changing anything that happened in the past is that you’d likely wind up impacting the present. I try not to look back at situations in the distant past, mostly because there really isn’t anything you can do about them. I also believe that directing energy to re-experiencing your past can eat at you, preventing you from living right now and hampering your growth as an individual. In my opinion, regret is a pernicious bugger once you start entertaining it.
That being said, when I was younger I was quick to judge and even quicker to react. Any relationship could and often would end on a pet peeve or tiny slight that I’d turned into a character condemning indicator. Once the mark was written it was written in stone and I would sever all ties permanently. I realize now that those traits or reactions come from a defensive outlook. My reasoning was that in quickly eliminating individuals who could potentially hurt me, I would escape the possibility of greater harm once trust was established. Unfortunately, for me, I failed to recognize that there is value in putting yourself out there, working through issues with the people around you and learning how to build strong relationships through the an occasional failure.
If I could go back in time and change something in my life, I would change my approach to relationships to one based on compassion and leave the stoniness for those who really deserved it.